Your Holidays, Your Rules

There's No Wrong Way to Spend This Season

Last week, I wrote about giving yourself permission to simplify gift-giving. The response was overwhelming. So many of you wrote to say you felt seen, validated, and relieved.

Then came the follow-up questions. Some asked: “What about all the events I’m expected to attend?” Others said: “My calendar is empty. Is it okay that I want a quiet holiday?”

Both are asking the same thing: Do I have permission to spend the holidays however I want?

Yes. Absolutely yes.

There’s No Right Way to Do the Holidays

Somewhere along the way, we created rules about what the holidays “should” look like. Big gatherings. Multiple parties. Constant activity. Traditions maintained at all costs.

And if your holiday doesn’t look like that? You might feel like you’re doing it wrong.

You’re not.

A meaningful holiday can be a house full of family. It can also be a quiet afternoon with a book. It can be attending every party you’re invited to. It can be attending none of them.

The only requirement is that it works for you.

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