What If “Slowing Down” Is a Lie?

You’ve been told to take it easy but what if that mindset is actually holding you back?

Penny was folding laundry when her granddaughter asked, “Grandma, do you miss running around like you used to?”

Penny smiled. “Who says I don’t still run around?” she replied, tossing a dish towel like a victory flag. But deep down, she felt the tug of something more complicated.

She didn’t want to overdo it, she’d heard it a hundred times: Take it easy. You’re not as young as you used to be.

That phrase “slowing down” is stitched into the fabric of aging. It’s well-meaning, maybe even protective. But what if it’s also misleading?

What if it’s quietly convincing older adults to sit more, move less, and second-guess their ability to thrive?

When “Take It Easy” Turns Into a Trap

Let’s be clear: rest matters. Listening to your body is wise. But assuming that aging equals automatic decline? That’s something different.

This “slow down” mentality can lead to:

• Avoiding activities that bring joy and purpose

• Losing muscle and balance due to less movement

• Increased isolation and boredom

• A creeping sense that the best years are behind you

That’s not aging, that’s disengaging.

And it’s not inevitable.

Your Body Is More Capable Than You Think

Research (and real life) keep showing that seniors who stay active, stay engaged, and stay curious often feel and function better than those who “play it safe.”

You’re not being reckless by:

• Walking a little farther than usual

• Dancing in the living room

• Learning a new skill, like painting or pickleball

• Starting strength exercises, even in your 70s or 80s

You may be protecting your health by doing those very things.

Movement is medicine. Purpose is power. And it’s never too late to start.

The Story of “Too Late” Is Just That a Story

Margaret had always loved gardening but had slowly given it up, telling herself it was “too much.” Then one spring, she decided to start with just one planter box. By midsummer, her tomatoes were the talk of the neighborhood.

“I didn’t realize how much I missed it,” she said. “And I didn’t realize how strong I still am.”

What to Do Instead of Slowing Down

This isn’t about pushing yourself to exhaustion. It’s about choosing momentum over stagnation. Try starting with:

1. Reclaim a favorite activity in a smaller way

Loved dancing? Put on music and sway for 5 minutes. Used to love hiking? Try a neighborhood nature trail.

2. Add gentle movement to everyday moments

March in place while brushing your teeth. Stretch while the kettle boils. Sit and stand from a chair 5 times before dinner.

3. Challenge your brain with something new

Crossword puzzles are great, but so are learning Zoom, taking up a new language, or joining a local book club.

The goal isn’t to stay busy, it’s to stay alive in your own life.

A Shift in Thinking: From “Be Careful” to “Be Curious”

Instead of “You’re too old for that,” try asking: “What would it feel like to try?”

Curiosity leads to action. Action leads to energy. Energy brings back confidence.

And confidence is what keeps us independent and vibrant.

You Don’t Have to Prove Anything, Just Keep Moving

This isn’t about chasing youth. It’s about honoring your life, your body, and your abilities as they are today.

“Slowing down” might be necessary some days. But on other days? It might just be an old story someone else told you.

You get to write a new one.

Caregiver Corner

If you're helping a parent or loved one who’s “slowing down” too much:

1. Watch for quiet signs of withdrawal

Not wanting to go out, stopping hobbies, or saying “I’m too old for that”, these may be signs they need encouragement, not rest.

2. Gently challenge the narrative

Say, “What if we tried just a few minutes?” instead of “You should rest.”

3. Celebrate effort, not results

Did they walk a little farther today? Did they try something new? Cheer them on. Confidence is built in these tiny wins.